By Kerigan Moore
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Everyone gets on that kick once in a while. You know what I’m talking about — we see “Atomic Habits” and 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think advertised on Instagram again and we think, “Oh, I need to read that! Once I read that, I’ll get my stuff together.”
There’s a pervasive idea, especially in college communities, that students constantly need to be bettering themselves — as if furthering their education isn’t enough. Around campus, there’s a sense that we’re at a critical stage in our lives, and that “getting our stuff together” now is key to keeping it together later. Self-help books are advertised as tools for college students to grow and become mature, successful adults.
But there’s a danger in believing that one book, one set of suggestions, one theme, or one principle is a magic bullet that can “fix” every aspect of life. We need to be careful about how we read self-help books. When we adopt new strategies — from meditation techniques to gardening hacks — we should be cautious about what we choose.
Here are some questions to consider before starting your self-help journey:
1. Understanding Your Needs (How Relatable?)
These books are only helpful if you know that you need help — and ultimately, understand what it is you need help with. Every person has unique needs and goals; be aware of how your needs may differ from those the book is addressing.
2. Evaluating the Content (How Reliable?)
Books are sources, and like in high school history, being able to evaluate the reliability and trustworthiness of a source is crucial. Look for:
Evidence-based information versus anecdotal advice.
The author's credentials and expertise.
Red flags like overly simplistic solutions for complex issues.
3. Practical Application (How Applicable?)
Some self-help books suggest revolutionary overhauls. But that’s not always practical. Start small with one or two actionable steps. Set realistic expectations for change, and consider keeping a journal to track progress.
4. When to Discard Suggestions (How Helpful?)
One book with one vague set of suggestions rarely addresses all life circumstances. Be mindful of signs that a self-help book may not be working:
When you feel overwhelmed or pressured.
When the suggestions don’t align with your values.
When negative emotions start to emerge.
Trust your instincts. If a suggestion doesn’t feel truly helpful, don’t implement it.
5. Finding Balance (How Does It Fit?)
Balance self-help literature with other forms of support, such as therapy, exercise, mentorship, meditation, and time with family and friends. Don’t rely on self-help books alone. They’re great resources but should be used alongside other guidance and your own intuition.
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